Living with disability can at times be difficult, both for the person with the disability and their partners, parents or family members. It is surprising the amount of people we speak to who do not open up to their families and partners about some of the tough stuff related to disability. This applies equally to the person with the disability and the person who may assist them on a daily basis.
Often this stems from loving the other person and not wanting to ‘burden’ them with our stuff…but over time this can build up and can cause relationship problems. We are also missing out of support we COULD be getting from our partners and family members and this can cause things like anxiety and depression as mentioned in this BBC article in the link below.
It can be hard to see how talking about anger, frustration, guilt, low mood and resentment can ever be a positive thing. However, if both of you are able to see the disability as a joint issue you are working on together, then how we cope with the tough emotions fits into that picture.
If you feel unable to open up at this point, that’s where our support can help to build your confidence and take steps to be more open with your partner with the aim of staying together.
Here’s hoping we can convince GPs locally to refer partners and carers on to us!